It's Your Call - Making Sexual Decisions

an interactive site
to help you make decisions that are right for you


(based on the software - "It's Your Call - Making Sexual Decisions")
CONTENTS

Introduction

Aspects of Sexuality

    •Biological Sex

    •Body Image

    •Self Esteem

    •Personality

    •Sexual Orientation


    •Values and      Attitudes

    •Gender Roles


    •Relationships

    •Activity Options

    •Communication

Myths about Male Sexuality

Myths about Female Sexuality


If a Pregnancy Results...

Alcohol and Other Drugs


Resources

Credits

Info on Other Software


Scenarios - Instructions

1. How Far Should We Go

2. Under Pressure

3. He Hates Condoms


4. Oh no... I'm Pregnant

5. Is He Seeing Someone Else?

6. Matt Coming Out

7. It's Not What I Thought

8. Let's Slow Down

9. Emergency!

10. Pulling Out

11. On the Pill...Sort Of


12. Party Times

13. One Night Stand

14. Ready or Not

15. Cultural Tradition

16. Dating Again

17. Your Own Real Life Scenario


Biological Sex

By "biological sex" we mean the biological differences between males and females.

Think for a moment about the implications of these biological differences.

For one thing, little boys become used to handling their genitals from the time they learn to go to bathroom.

Little girls, on the other hand, use toilet paper and are careful not to touch their genitals with their hands. The message they often internalize is that their genitals are dirty and they shouldn't touch them.

How do you think your early experiences have affected your sexuality?

 

Think about the biological changes that boys and girls go through when they reach puberty- menstrual periods, hair growth, the development of hips and breasts, deepening voices and so on.
How do these changes affect our sexuality? How about the reactions we get from others as we go through these changes-How does teasing or admiration affect our feelings about ourselves as sexual beings? How do they affect our behaviour?

Think about your own experiences at puberty. How do you think they have affected you?

 

Now consider how another significant biological factor influences sexuality-the ability to become pregnant.

For women, pregnancy is a public expression of a very private and intimate act. As the pregnancy progresses, even a woman who's very comfortable with her sexuality may seek reassurance that she's still attractive and desirable.

How else might pregnancy or the potential for pregnancy affect a woman's sexuality?


But what about guys? Some men see their partner's pregnancy as a confirmation of their masculinity. But does the male look different or express his sexuality differently as a result of his partner becoming pregnant? What do you think?


What about couples who learn that they're unable to have children? How might their feelings about this affect their sexuality and their sexual expression? How might this be different for the man and the woman?

 

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© 2001, University of Alberta Health Centre

adapted from "It's Your Call"
a free interactive software program downloadable from
www.ualberta.ca/healthinfo