Unhealthy Relationships

Relationships can be represented along a continuum from abusive to healthy:
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Healthy relationships involve mutual respect and consideration.

When there are disagreements, both partners have an equal say. They talk things over, trying to find a solution both partners can be happy with.
Assumptions are avoided and feelings are discussed openly. Both partners are considerate of each other's feelings, opinions and needs.

In unhealthy relationships, on the other hand, the partners are not equal: one has more rights or power than the other.
One or both partners may use sex to get what they want, or they may nag, pester or pout or use the silent treatment. A lot of anger is expressed through yelling or shouting.

Unhealthy relationships may become abusive.

If you would andswer YES to ANY of the above statements, your relationship shows signs of being abusive. You and your partner both need to get help from a qualified counselor. (An agency listed in the 'Resources' section may be able to refer you.)

If your partner is abusing you and won't get help, you need to leave the relationship. This can be dangerous in itself -If you think you may be in any danger, seek help and advice from a qualified person before you leave. Your local distress line or women's shelter may be able to help you, whether you're male or female.

Now that you've learned a bit more about unhealthy relationships, see the slider below to see where you think your present relationship is (if you have one).

Is this where you want to be? If not, what might you do to change this?