It's
Your Call - Making Sexual Decisions
an interactive site to help you make decisions that are right for you (based on the software - "It's Your Call - Making Sexual Decisions") |
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CONTENTS Introduction Aspects of Sexuality Biological Sex Body Image Self Esteem Personality Sexual Orientation Values and Attitudes Gender Roles Relationships Activity Options Communication Myths about Male Sexuality Myths about Female Sexuality If a Pregnancy Results... Alcohol and Other Drugs Resources Credits Info on Other Software Scenarios - Instructions 1. How Far Should We Go 2. Under Pressure 3. He Hates Condoms 4. Oh no... I'm Pregnant 5. Is He Seeing Someone Else? 6. Matt Coming Out 7. It's Not What I Thought 8. Let's Slow Down 9. Emergency! 10. Pulling Out 11. On the Pill...Sort Of 12. Party Times 13. One Night Stand 14. Ready or Not 15. Cultural Tradition 16. Dating Again 17. Your Own Real Life Scenario |
Introduction
to Values Click on the above links to learn more about values in general and to explore your own values and attitudes: Our values are principles or beliefs that serve as guidelines to help us make decisions about actions, behaviours and life choices. They reflect what we value and how we feel about the rightness or wrongness of things. As a general rule, when we act in accordance with our own values, we tend to feel good about ourselves and our actions. When we act in a way that violates our values, we tend to feel badly about it. Our values are influenced by many factors, including our experiences, perceptions, parents, friends, school and religion. No two people share exactly the same set of values. Values may change over time. As we have new experiences and receive new information, we may re-evaluate our values and modify them. What we think is right or wrong in any given situation may change when we find ourselves actually in that kind of situation. And remember-you
don't have to try everything to figure out what's right to you. Thinking
about the issue and listening to your mind, your heart and your 'guts'
will help identify your values. Questionnaire: Exploring My Values Each of the next questions will give you two or more statements. Click on the response which reflects your feelings, and then type in how you feel about the issue. There are no right or wrong answers. To protect you privacy, the computer will erase your responses when you leave each screen. Typing your answers will just give you a chance to reflect on how you feel about each point. You may print this page using your browser if you wish to keep it in your journal. That way you can refer to it in the future to see how your values change over time. Questionnaire: I
like my body and would feel comfortable sharing it with a partner under
the right circumstances.
I
don't feel good about my body and I'd be embarassed for my partner to
see it.
What thoughts and feelings do these statements bring up for me? I
am comfortable with my sexual feelings and thoughts
Sexual
thoughts and feelings make me feel uncomfortable.
What thoughts and feelings do these statements bring up for me? Carrying
condoms feels like I'm planning to have sex and that's wrong - it should
just happen.
Carrying
condoms feels like the right, sensible thing to do, even if I'm not definitely
planning to have sex - it's just a matter of being prepared.
What thoughts and feelings do these statements bring up for me? Masturbation
is a healthy, natural way for me to get to know my body better and discover
what I like.
The
whole idea of masturbation makes me very uncomfortable.
What thoughts and feelings do these statements bring up for me? I
don't expect intercourse to always be a part of sex - there are all kinds
of sexy, erotic, satisfying things you can do without actually having
intercourse.
If
I'm going to be sexual with someone, for me that means "going all
the way" and having intercourse.
What thoughts and feelings do these statements bring up for me? I
would feel fine about having sex with someone that I didn't love
I
need to be in a caring relationship before I feel right about having sex.
What thoughts and feelings do these statements bring up for me? Good
sex should come naturally.
It
takes skill, knowledge, communication and practice to learn how to have
good sex.
What thoughts and feelings do these statements bring up for me? I've
had a good look at my genitals with a mirror.
The
idea of looking at my genitals with a mirror grosses me out.
What thoughts and feelings do these statements bring up for me? I
know what I need and want sexually.
I
don't really know what I like - I haven't experimented or thought about
it much.
What thought or feelings do these statements bring up for me? Sex
should be spontaneous, not planned.
Planning
sex can be an exciting turn-on.
What thoughts and feelings do these statements bring up for me? A little booze can loosen you up and make you feel better. I
wouldn't want to have sex when I was high on booze or drugs.
What thoughts and feelings do these statements bring up for me? I
would never sex with someone else when I was involved in a steady relationship.
To
me, it's ok to have sex with someone other than my steady partner.
What thoughts and feelings do these statements bring up for me? If my steady partner had sex with someone else, it wouldn't bother me. I'd
be very upset if my steady partner had sex with someone else.
What thoughts and feelings do these statements bring up for me? I
feel comfortable initiating sexual contact with my partner.
I
like it when my partner "comes on to me" for sex
What thoughts and feelings do these statements bring up for me? I
can't ever imagine ever wanting to have sex with someone of the same gender
as me.
I
would be open to having a sexual relationship with someone of the same
gender as me.
I
would prefer to have a sexual relationship with someone of the same gender
as me.
What thoughts and feelings do these statements bring up for me? For
some people, abortion may be an acceptable option if an unintended pregnancy
occurs.
Abortion
is never an acceptable option.
What thoughts and feelings do these statements bring up for me? |
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